Poor Nela. The dirtiest rag would feel cleaner on her skin. I know he's yours. It ended completely only with the death of the last male Aes Sedai.
Husbands always make trouble. Alone, if you please, Builder. You can ride alone here if you wish it, but if the Queen of the Malkieri came to Andor without a proper escort, Morgase would be scandalized, if not offended. When it was done to a man who could channel the Power, who must be stopped before madness drove him to the destruction of all around him, it was called gentling, but for Aes Sedai it was stilling.